Two American F-16s returning to base after a patrol in Afghanistan on April 17, 2002, reported coming under surface-to-air fire. Major Schmidt (piloting one of the fighters) requested permission to open fire in response. He received an order to “stand by,” and two minutes later “hold fire.” Seconds later, Schmidt declared he was “rolling in, in self-defense.” and dropped a 500lb laser guided bomb.
The firing seen was actually from a firing range, where Canadian soldiers were practicing firing at ground targets. Four Canadian soldiers were killed, a further eight wounded. In 2004, Schmidt was cleared of negligent manslaughter, but found guilty of dereliction of duty. His defense was that he believed that the firing posed a threat to him and his flight lead, so it was his right to attack in self-defence.
What senseless loss of life. I am not a soldier, have never been in a war and have no way to judge the tensions of being in live combat situations.
Last week I encouraged personal “upgrades”. This week I’m pleading with you to avoid any and all forms of “friendly fire”. You are the “friendly” so it’s up to you to stop “firing”.
For example, if your spouse is already uneasy about the state of your finances, it is not a good time to buy new rims for your truck or new shoes and dress to ease your tensions.
2. It’s not funny. You may think you are ‘just joking,’ but firing live ammunition into the conversation only makes your spouse have to jump and dance and run to avoid being “hit” by something hurtful. Don’t say things that “didn’t mean to hurt”. It is equivalent to firing live bullets and saying “I didn’t mean to hit anyone , I was just being funny.” Actually, you were being incredibly mean, immature, and dangerous. Stop it!
3. Get out in front! The best way to avoid firing on your own is to be in front of them. Yup, men, how do you like this image? Your responsibility is to be in front holding the big guns, while your wife and children stand behind you with loaded weapons of their own. It takes some courage on your part but your strength is for defending your family from in front, not lobbing bombs over their heads from behind. Wives there are many areas where you can do the same for your husbands. For example, stand up and be confident and sexy. His attention is not likely to go anywhere else if you are standing in front of him.One of the devils greatest pleasures is that we would attack our own. Paul writes to the Galatians (5:15) and warns them about this very thing, “If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.” The devil doesn’t even have to move. Rather, commit yourself to serve and to love and to lead. In so doing you will build strength into your relationships. And you will be locked and loaded if the devil does come knocking.
Serving …to Love… to Lead… to Jesus,